Shift #1: Breaking the Pattern of Self-Sabotage!

“Healing doesn’t automatically mean we know how to live healed. Sometimes, after God restores us, we might unknowingly sabotage the very freedom we prayed for.”

Why because...

• Healing feels unfamiliar.
• Growth requires practicing new habits.
• Old patterns feel safe, even when they’re unhealthy.

Fear of losing causes us to retreat instead of advance.


No matter what, when God brings us out of barren (empty, devastating) places, we still have to learn how to remain there. We can't return. I have 5 practical tips to keep us from self-sabotage. 

       Tip 1: Start journaling. You don't need anything fancy, just a notebook. Once you have a journal, answer the following questions:

• Take some time to journal. I love to do different types of journaling. It helps me focus during my quiet time. Start by writing down what God healed you from. Be specific. 
• Next, think about the patterns you left behind. 
•  Consider what you refuse to return to. Make a "Do Not Return List" and put it on your refrigerator or mirror to review daily. 

       Tip 2: Next, write down your triggers. 
       Examples:

• Feeling unseen
• Disappointment
• Loneliness
• Times of Waiting​

        Tip 3: Write a prayer to God asking him to heal you from those triggers. 

        Tip 4: Practice Obedience in Small Ways. Self-Sabotage starts small, then grows. 

• Some examples are: Skipping prayer, Skipping reading the word, Speaking negatively over yourself, Reconnecting with those God has led you away from, etc.) .
• Now choose one of those things you have skipped and return to practicing it. You may need to take small steps, but take them. 

       Tip 5: Guard your environment and your thoughts.

 When engaging with people and things, ask yourself, "Does this support my healing journey or drain it?" Think about the content you consume, your connections, and even conversations you may have on and offline. Then, seek God in prayer for continued direction. 

In closing, remember that self-sabotage is not a lack of faith. It’s often a lack of practice. Healing is real, but staying healed is a daily choice. Choose wisely everyday. I'm a living witness that it works. 

Thanks for stopping by and keep living "That HOPE Life!" 

​Denise M. Walker